It’s a lament I hear often from my friends; as an adult, it’s hard to make friends. There are no organized playdates, no guarantee of seeing each other in class each day. Sometimes there are people that you friend at work, but that’s not everybody’s situation. As we age, we tend to get more set in our ways, settled into our grooves and stepping outside of our comfort zone can be frightening.
I myself have had a wide group of friends and a small group of friends; my circles shift with the ebb and flow of life, kids’ activities, jobs and geography. As a military wife, I was accustomed to the changes, but now my husband is retired from that active duty life; we have lived in Oklahoma for 10 years (gasp); and many of the friends I’ve made through my children (and the MOMS Club connections) have drifted as we are all attending different schools, kids are participating in different activities. We’re still friendly, and I’ve made some life-long friends, but that solid group of ladies who would meet me for an impromptu playdate at the park has drifted. I’m finding myself in need of a new circle.
Enter MWF Seeking BFF, a book by Rachel Bertsche that follows her year-long quest for friendship. The circumstances are different (she moved back to her hometown of Chicago after living for years in NYC) but the story is the same: where do you go as an adult to find new friends?
Bertsche’s quest is entwined with her own research on friends and making friends, experts that she consulted and books that she read. It makes for a fascinating read about adult relationships, and serves as a reminder that we are all looking to make positive connections in life.
I’ve been inspired to reach out more, to talk to people when previously (like Bertsche), I might have kept my head down or just smiled awkwardly when a stranger says hello or tries to engage me in conversation.
Inspired to begin your own friend quest? Find this title at your favorite local or online bookseller, or read more about Bertsche’s journey at mwfseekingbff.com.